31 things you should take in consider in your 20s to be successful on long term. Why? Because your 20s are the foundation of your life journey.
1. Love yourself.
“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” — Lucille Ball
When i first realize that a few years ago, it changed my life forever. Here’s what i want you to think about: “How can you love somebody, if you don’t love yourself first?”
2. Learn to say NO.
“It’s only by saying NO that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.” — Steve Jobs
Simply NO. Don’t complicated it! I know how you fell when you say YES to almost everybody and everything even if you don’t want to. You feel anxious about. But here is the thing, saying NO will make you feel bad for the moment, but focusing on long term you will be grateful for your choice.
3. Travel. A lot.
“Travel far enough, you meet yourself.” ― David Mitchell, Cloud Atlas
You have one life my friend, one life. Go and experience life, go and see the world. This is not the time to get a fancy car or a new IPhone. Get out the comfort zone and meet new people, new cultures. Please do that, and you will thank me.
4. Master your time.
“Either you run the day or the day runs you.” — Jim Rohn
Tic tac… a few seconds are gone forever. You can’t get them back, but you can manage them. Time is your most valuable treasure and is already in your hands. We all have 24 h per day. No more or less. But it is only up to you to simply decide to take control of your time. Here are 4 tips to do that:
- planning in advance in your calendar;
- set priorities, no more than 3 per day;
- create a morning routine;
- set trigger moments.
5. Start a blog.
“A blog is a great way to figure out what you want to do with yourself because writing regularly is a path to self-discovery.” — Penelope Trunk
Yes, like I did. You already know that are millions of blogs out there, the competition is huge and so many people start blogging and only a few succeed. You know why, because the lack of patience. But you are not that guy. You know that. And that’s why you need to know the amazing reasons why you should start blogging. I will mention 3 reasons down here:
- you will earn money;
- you will become an authority in your field;
- you will learn technical skills like SEO, google analytics, php and so on.
6. Fall in love with failure.
“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
A lot of people fear of fail, fear of losing something or someone, but you and i know that without failure we can have success. Here is the ultimate formula for success:
The more you experience failure the more success you will have. Period!
7. Join public speaking club.
“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear — not absence of fear. Except a creature be part coward it is not a compliment to say it is brave.” — Mark Twain
You know that the nr. 1 fear in the world is not fear of dead, its fear of public speaking. I remember when I first started speaking in public at Toastmasters, a few months ago. When i first stepped on the stage, my heart start beating so hard cause I forgot what I should say. It was an awkward experience for me at that time, but now, after a few speeches, i still feel the fear, and do it anyway.
I encourage you to join a public speaking club. There, you will be surrounded by awesome people who want you to grow, you will know yourself better, you will make new friends and you will become recognized by Toastmaster International.
“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.” — Jim Rohn
My and your body is built to move. You know how to exercise, how to run, how to do a set of push ups. You don’t need a new program, with tips and tricks on how to get fit or lose weight faster, you already know how to do it.
So, what are you waiting for, go hit the gym, take a walk, run.
It is shown by science that exercising for at least 30 per day it will improve your brain performance.
9. Priorities your health.
“There’s nothing more important than our good health — that’s our principal capital asset.” — Arlen Specter
You know that without good health, there is nothing you can get. None. And here is another thing, no one will care more than you do. Taking care require work, but will come back tremendously.
10. Surround yourself with successful people.
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” — Dale Carnegie
Become interested in other people, not any kind of people, but successful people. Surround with them, learn from them, work with them and lastly thank them.
11. Read, a lot.
“Everything you need for better future and success has already been written. And guess what? All you have to do is go to the library.” ― Jim Rohn
In school i was a slow reader and I hate reading books. But, after school, I fall in love with them. I start reading books from different fields, psychology, relationships, business, personal development and so on.
It changes my perspective about life, how i work, how i interact with other people, how i think and more. I encourage you to do the same. You will find untapped resources from aha to oh sh*t!
12. Fall in love.
I think, this is the time when you should really fall in love, to learn how to love and how to get loved. You don’t have nothing to lose.
13. Live forward.
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” — Soren Kierkegaard
Always start with end goal in your mind. You already have the incredible power to imagine your goal.
See yourself achieving that goal, look at it, feel it, taste it and only from now, the achieving process begin.
14. Compare yourself to others.
“If you aren’t sure why you are comparing yourself to others, you might be able to learn more about your state of mind by looking at just who you are comparing yourself to.” — Harley
I know you will blame me for this one. Now I should compare to others? Are you crazy?
Is not what you think. Comparing to others in a negative way, like looks, achievement or followers is a bad way to compare.
But on the other hand, comparing yourself to others in a positive way, like creativity, vision and growth it brings in self awareness to say:
- this is how i’m distinct
- this is how i’m different.
15. Practice gratitude.
“There is no better opportunity to receive more than to be thankful for what you already have. Thanksgiving opens the windows of opportunity for ideas to flow your way.” –Jim Rohn
Please, take a step back and realize that! We live in an amazing world than ever. You should be grateful for that, for what you already have, good health, a shelter, clean water, amazing relationships.
Don’t believe me? There is science proof which show exactly how gratitude will change your life.
16. Set long term goals.
“The thing about goals is that living without them is a lot more fun, in the short run. It seems to me, though, that the people who get things done, who lead, who grow and who make an impact… those people have goals.” — Seth Godin
Setting goals for short term will make you happy. Yes. But, what you do think about setting long term goals and really stick to them?
For example, my goal for the next 2 months is to learn French. I am enthusiastic first week, and after that lack of motivation comes in, and I quit learning.
Here is another example:
It’s gonna be amazing. I’m so enthusiastic learning French for the next 2 months. I just can’t wait listening audiobooks, 30 min per day and imagining myself how is gonna be like, eating French food, walking around Eiffel Tower, getting inspired by French culture and traditions, and so on.
Which of these 2 examples makes you to take bold action? I’m sure, the second example.
What I did, I set higher expectation for myself. That’s it. And the best part is you can do it too.
17. Write a letter to older you.
“I was sent a ChallengeRichard to write a letter to the 10, 25, 50, and 65 year old versions of myself. As each stage in life was so different, I decided to pen four separate letters.” — Richard Branson
This one, I think is a great challenge.
It makes me to think, how is it feels when you look back and realize, how can a letter to older you that you start writing 10 years ago, brings you here, where you are right now. It feels amazing.
18. Get rid of negative people.
“You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people.” — Joel Osteen
There are over 7 billion people on this amazing planet. Think about for a second. You have the ultimate power to choose, to choose with who are you gonna be, friends, colleagues, your environment and so on. You’re not a tree. You deserve to be surrounded with great, positive people.
19. Take responsibility for your own actions.
“The price of greatness is responsibility.” — Winston Churchill
Taking responsibility for your life is great.
Responsibility is a major factor in receiving the respect and admiration of those around you. Accepting responsibility is not only the right thing to do, but on the long-term dividends than you can now imagine.
20. Challenge yourself.
“I’m always looking for a new challenge. are a lot of mountains to climb out there. When I run out of mountains, I’ll build a new one.” — Sylvester Stallone
The skills, the knowledge you gained yesterday may not prepare you for the uncertainty of tomorrow. So, every day keep pushing yourself and learn something new. Get comfortable without uncomfortable.
21. Get a mentor.
There are a lot of successful people who has a mentor, and is important to get one. A mentor will show you the way and support through the success journey.
22. Love your family.
“Family is not an important thing. It’s everything.”– Michael J. Fox
Love your family because he is the only one in your life that will always loves you and make everything for you.
23. Focus on a simple task.
“Experts say you can’t concentrate on more than one task at a time.” — Marilyn vos Savant
There are so many studies that shows, multitasking will kill you productivity. And this is true.
When i start writing my first blog post, i was doing so many things in the same time, like getting ideas around a topic, do keyword research, seo, link building, analytics. I felt overwhelmed with all the information, i lose focus, lose time and finally, become unproductive.
Focusing on a simple task, is the only and fastest way to accomplish anything scheduled on your calendar.
“Nothing you wear is more important than your smile.” — Connie Stevens
Spread your smile to the people you know and don’t know, smile at challenges, smile every day in every moment. Smiling, will make you feel good and make others feel good, and surprisingly doesn’t cost anything.
25. Manage your stress.
“Some people are so used to experiencing stress that they don’t remember what life was like without it.” — Andrew J. Bernstein
I know, how it feels when stress affects you and your body, is really bad for you. But on the other hand, research shows, once you manage stress, it can actually help you to reach peak performance levels.
26. Focus on your strengths.
“Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle.” — Napoleon Hill
If you are a terrible public speaker but great at communicating by writing, then focus on getting even better at writing. Strive to become the clearest writer in the world. Focus on what you are good at and go from good to great.
27. Live in an big city.
I feel uncomfortable doing this step, but worth it. Trust me! There are so many opportunities in a big city that you can benefit from, like jobs, meeting new people from different culture and so on. Make this important step in your 20s.
28. Live like you’re going to die tomorrow.
“You are gonna to die. Do something about it.” — Gary Vaynerchuk
Do you want to hear the ultimate motivational statement ever? The sad truth is, I am gonna to die someday and you too. I know, it’s a heartbreaking statement and the good part is, you can choose to live every day like is gonna be the last one, by being present, bold and enthusiastic.
29. Get a quality sleep.
“Sleep is the best meditation.” — Dalai Lama
A quality sleep is scheduled, without any technology around you and without noise.
30. Say “I love you!”.
“The regret of my life is that I have not said ‘I love you’ often enough.” — Yoko Ono
Those 3 words are powerful, and not only words are powerful but actions. These, tougheter words with actions, will change you and the same will change them.
31. Start now.
“The beginning is always NOW.” — Roy T. Bennett
Don’t fool yourself waiting for the perfect time. That perfect moment will never come. It is Now. Invite that beautiful girl in town, start that business that always wanted, start writing your first book, speak in public and so on.
There are many other things that you want to do in your 20s, maybe i miss some, maybe not, but these are in my opinion 31 things you should do in your 20s to be successful.
Feel free and leave a comment. Thank you!